The New York Times printed an article last week, basically about the plight of single women in universities. Since about ten years ago, women have outnumbered men in colleges and universities, and the article is about the fact that women have a hard time finding a date because there are so few men.
Jayne Dallas, a senior studying advertising who was seated across the table, grumbled that the population of male undergraduates was even smaller when you looked at it as a dating pool. “Out of that 40 percent, there are maybe 20 percent that we would consider, and out of those 20, 10 have girlfriends, so all the girls are fighting over that other 10 percent,” she said.
Always be wary when faced with figures. First of all, there are 20 percent that you would consider; that doesn't mean that no one could love the other 20 percent, so really everyone is fighting over the 30 percent that are single. Secondly, these numbers are useless because they are strictly anecdotal, and have no data to back them up. However, addressing the point she's making, there are always few people you really connect with on a romantic level, when compared against the number of people you meet that you just plain don't care about or don't even think about. You're at no more disadvantage than anyone else when you remark that there is such a small percentage of people you meet that you want to date.
Thanks to simple laws of supply and demand, it is often the women who must assert themselves romantically or be left alone on Valentine’s Day.
What a tragedy that would be, if a woman asked a man out on a date. I, for one, have been flattered when a girl has asked me out, even if I'm not interested. Moreover, I find it extremely weird when I hear about a girl who likes a guy, but does nothing, waiting for him to notice her, when it's clear that he simply hasn't given any thought to it, and that he would probably be very open to the idea if he were just prompted with it.
“Girls feel pressured to do more than they’re comfortable with, to lock it down,” Ms. Lynch said.
Bullshit. This assumes that a girl must be in a relationship. If you don't want to "do more than you're comfortable with," then don't. The worse that can happen to you is that you're single. Being single won't kill you. In fact, you can learn a lot about yourself.
“Women do not want to get left out in the cold, so they are competing for men on men’s terms,” she wrote. “This results in more casual hook-up encounters that do not end up leading to more serious romantic relationships. Since college women say they generally want ‘something more’ than just a casual hook-up, women end up losing out.”
If you want something more, you should consider not sleeping with someone you just met and know nothing about. When you do, it sort of sends the message that it's just for the sake of a good time.
Remember when people were complaining that there were too many men on college campuses? That men were setting the norm by population, and basically the same crap was going on? Does it seem like the situation has reversed and they're still complaining about the same thing, just in a different way? If a date is what you want, and you can't get it, maybe you should ask someone out where you would normally wait to be asked out; maybe you should be more open-minded about people you wouldn't normally consider; or maybe you should just exercise patience, and realize that not having a date isn't the end of the world, and that many people have dates and are still miserable.
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